How can I be a proper man?
and how can I become psychologically balanced?
The proper man is that one who is in harmony with himself and with people around him. He satisfies his own needs without affecting others. He keeps all the rights of people around him, his parents, his wife, his children, his relatives, his neighbors, his colleagues and all people in the society, the way they like and accepted by customs, society and Sharia. He is tolerant about his own rights upon them.
If one of them keeps his duty towards him, he is grateful to him, and whoever doesn’t keep his rights, he always finds him an excuse and he never deserts him or disputes with him or stops his supply or benefaction for him. A wise man said about this: (Treat people in a way that if you are alive they long for you and if you die they grieve after you.)
A proper man also equalizes his worldly desires and wishes, he gets them in legal ways accepted by Sharia. He never gets completely occupied by them in a way that makes him forgetful to get ready to the permanent life in the hereafter after his death.
He neither deprives himself from this life nor forgets doing good deeds that make him happy in the hereafter. He is not introvert or isolated from society or over socialized in a way that makes him not keeping his or other people’s duties. Islam sets the right way for that as God says:
17:97. “Whoever works righteousness, man or woman, and has Faith, verily, to him will We give a new Life, a life that is good and pure and We will bestow on such their reward according to the best of their actions.”